I've only used one brand of poly
primer (U-Pol Reface). The tech sheet says wet or dry sand, but (of course) it must be dried thoroughly before proceeding. It can be topcoated directly, but recommends a wet on wet
primer (a.k.a.
sealer) first, which is how I've always used it.
I'm still an epoxy virgin

but my Valspar/DeBeer/House of Kolors tech guy has given me a gallon to try out. It's their Octoral brand, which is aimed at commercial and high production, but he reckons adhesion and protection is just as good as the HOK one, but it doesn't have as much build, or sand as easily.
On a side note, he strongly recommended not using a water borne base straight over epoxy (sanded or not), as adhesion might be a problem due to the like of chemical 'bite' from the base. He's told me to use WOW /
sealer first.